Where did men go so wrong in the last few years.Yes it has changed a lot.I've had a proudly happily married guy say to me that.."Its all changed. If I hadnt of got married then,ten years ago -- I question if I would now." And that everything has changed.The world has changed.
So Why? Well in fact part the internet which I will discuss in a minute. I also think, in part, to an odd regressive kick against feminism and HIV that happened amongst East Coast girls and boys in the past 8 years.Newsweek/Time Magazine or one of them, did write about this alarming and indeed disturbing social phenomenon that was happening with girls in high schools,private and public, on the East Coast,and presumably beyond.However the article did not discuss why.
The phenomonon was that girls , would compete to see how many "bj's '" they could give in a week or any one night to guys. It was widespread and a common practice.
Now lets move ahead a few years now.This issue has not been addressed. Those very same girls have all left school and are now the ages of 18- 28 and trolling the bars and internet sites and guess what......the men prowling the net and/or the downtown bars and Soho and Meatpacking district in New York, in their forties - seem to know it-even if they don't know why.
The world today is not just men"picking up 'chicks" and hoping to meet someone anymore- this is a whole different thing.The point by these men is "not to meet someone" and "not to have any kind of real connection or relationship."
Suddenly by simply shopping and advertising on online line dating sites, any guy in NY or anywhere, who can afford to take a girl for a decent dinner can get a "b j" from one of these girls.Without questions asked.
These girls are not smart,talented or quality girls..and these guys do not care. Its an impersonal dating system.The boxes men tick in their lives that they show you either personally or on the net are incorrect.None of these guys are looking for any kind of personal relationship or connection at all.Evne if thye say online "looking for long lasting relationship" they are in fact not. The point is not to meet someone and not to have any kind of real connection or relationship.These guys are internet addicts.Their buzz is foo the quarry no he connection.An artist friend of mine said last night...'well if a guy is like that,that he gets more of a kick out of a chasing down a 20 sec blow job,and destroying the chance of a real relationship of substance....more fool him?
These "b j generation "girls from around the world have their boring talentless suburban bank jobs,trade jobs,wall st jobs,whatever it is...And they grew up seeing how many blow jobs they could give in a week.They got their job this way,they got their apt this way.And they took any chance of any kind of relationship any decent single girl or woman has, this way as well.
And we as smart,sensitive, intelligent women ,(many of who were busy pursing careers and equality in the ninties) have to watch as scores of otherwise,and prior seemingly reasonable men behave as internet addicted stupid short visioned shallow lunatics chasing girls in their twenties.Not only that.they are all about the book cover and not the contents,as internet dating has allowed the to shop like any supermarket.Girls are just blow up dolls to these guys online.
It makes the men look even more insecure than they did. And any respect for men is going.Well mine has.
Maybe these men are not good enough in bed to cope with real girls,they have to resort to twenty five year old internet girls..or of course they are stating the size of their dick .To use my friend Hillary's words- in such instances- either a short or small one.
This phenomomen is worse than in Hollywood in which I lived ,which had bimbos of a different kind..at least the bimbos were smart enough to think why they were doing it..some of them.And these current men in thier forties are so stupid they think it is because the girls like them.No darlings it was their high school game, boys.WAKE UP.And it does seem to be men in thier forties for some reason. The fifty five year olds still play the same old games and tricks they always did..but these internet prowling men are diffferent ..they put an energy into it that no fifty two year old worth his salt does,(nor that no younger cool guy who is worth his salt does-he being limited to My Space and simple sites ).
These "blow job generation girls" had a porn star as a role model-Paris Hilton.Gone are the days of "thinking" women and "men" and the days of sophistication-as this phenom is not sophisticated.And it is sad to see men not taking responsiblity and actually playing along to these girlsWe women did our bit for equality in the 60's,70's,80's,90's..now its men turn to have some chutzpah,have some balls and step up to the plate and rather than undo all the work we did,and actually stop it regressing. Where are the men with chutzpah and spine.They dont exist.At the end of the day it is only men who are going to suffer and humanity.More divorces.And NO - men are not different from women in terms of physical needs either.We have to stop giving that label to men and using that conditioning as an excuse.Emotionally and mentally we are all the same.And the mind is strong.Look at Buddhist monks.
These loose girls in their twenties are tearing up bars,the internet, the party scenes .And men,especially over the age of 40 are stupid enough to think they do it as they like them.. NO guys...these girls are sluts and it was their high school competition..An artist friend of mine also pointed out an additonal reason..with the heightened divorce rate in America all these young boys and girls are looking for father figures.
Regardless It is impossible for decent girls to compete with this.Men in their forties prowl the internet....they may write in their little boxes they are looking for women over 32,35,37 or relationships but they are not.You talk to them about or watch them....they want 20-30 year old.They don't want to connect with anyone.Faced with having to have any kind of conversation beyond small talk they run a mile..they are petrified of emotional intimacy..and they just don't to emotionally connect with anyone
One serial internet dater,who I met at a party, even had the audacity to say to me that 'girls in their twenties peronsalities matched his" !He was 44.UM HOW IS THAT? "So girls who have zero life exerience and are not to bright even somehow match well travelled,succesful 40-48 year olds."" WOW ! Are men that stupid? So Why is it then.?Its because these girls are total blow job giving bimbos,who dont ask questions(and thats the point,not the blow job..its the whys and wherefores) who look at Paris Hilton,porn girl, as thier mentor,consiciously or subconsciously.
(as yes of course there are some smart academic 20something year olds
and I assure you they are dating hot guys in their own age group not
hooking themselves out to older men on certain sleazy dating sites but regardless even then..they are still givng out "bj's..as they did in high school)
We girls and women of any decency and brains and nouse dont stand a chance.I have met and seen these men who internet date in todays days and age.Most are in their forties loking for 20-28 year olds despite what they say in their online boxes) and scarily you can see a guy on one site..and then see the same guy all over again on other sites like Sugardaddy.com,www.millionairematch.com,www.jdate.com-usually a combination of two or three of those sites in LA ,NY and elsewhere. Why - because they are known for easy girls in thier twenties .I did a trial run for a month anonymously on one internet site(not sugardaddy.com .However I thought was a joke name until a lawyer pointed it out to me for real).I got many many responses and only met two of the people on it and even cancelled the trial month run before it finished,as ti was clear to any smart woman what was going on.
One guy said to me that'if he was serious about meeting someone or getting married he would take himself off the internet sites immedately" And I think that sums it up.These are at best ,loose sex networking sites .
And I will finish with...decent women over the age of 34..wake up...these guys are doing this..every night.
And have you ever noticed that...these guys can waste all their time talking to strangers on line and yet actually little time with those they actually know and like..so therefore mens capabilites of any real connection or intimacy is,thanks to their own lack of control and stupid girls in their twenties- caput.
So thinking girls- forget meeting anyone.There are no rare ,special men anymore.
*These guys are internet addicts too.Like alchaolics.Its not sophisticated at all. Some of them their friends dont even realise the extent of their addictions.For these guys Its every day and every night until 2am.They have to go online or leave their blackberry online and see
if the next twenty year old wants to meet them.Its an addiction.And its a waste of life.
PS: in reading this, in retrospect, it may seem i like men over fifty- i tend not to in the " romantic " sense- i kind of like men in my own age group..
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